askTypical questions for newlyweds in India include: “Is there any good news?”
As a married woman, I am not immune. When I moved to the city a few years ago, the first question my neighbors asked me was, “How many children do you have?” As the years passed, these questions became more intrusive, hurtful, and extremely personal.
A few weeks ago, we moved again – this time to Kochi. I used to think only older people would ask intrusive questions, but a young newlyweds proved me wrong.
One might think that once a woman becomes pregnant, the problems stop. But all in vain. Alia Bhatt is a good example. The actor announced on Instagram on June 27 that she and Ranbir Kapoor are having a baby, shortly after the post went viral.
From trolls on social media to uncles on WhatsApp groups, everyone has an opinion.
Alia was quick to give a fitting response to an article that suggested she would be taking a break from filming in the UK and that Ranbir might be taking her home.
“Nobody needs to pick up anyone, I’m a woman, not a package,” she said.
This is not an isolated incident. Celebrities like Neha Dhupia and Dia Mirza have also come under fire after announcing their pregnancy just months after their marriage.
“Being a mother should never be ashamed.”
Diamirza was asked when she announced her pregnancy, to which she replied: “We are not married because we have children together. We are married because we want to spend our lives together. We found out when we were planning our wedding We are having a baby. This marriage is not the result of a pregnancy.”
in an interview Indian Expressshe talked about managing negative reviews after her announcement.
“If you let negativity seep into your heart and mind, it’s everywhere. It was the happiest moment of my life, and I couldn’t have let a few trolls turn it into a poisonous slug. I refuse to let These people do not see the purity and beauty of the mother-to-be and want to humiliate her, laugh at her or tease her. I have always lived by my beliefs and I will continue to do so with pride and joy. This beautiful part of motherhood There must be no shame in the brigade, and as women, we have every right to exercise our right to choose,” Mirza said.
“It’s not okay to ask a woman when she’s going to have a baby.”
TV actress Debina Bonnerjee also objected to the questions women were asked before and after pregnancy.
In a video posted on Koimoi, Bonnerjee said people have to stop asking women, ‘When are you going to have a baby?
“We know what’s good for us and what’s not. Every woman has her own reasons. She might not want to be a mom, she might have a hard time. Don’t ask other women that. It’s not okay,” Bang Najib said.
On her YouTube channel, she talks about her pre-pregnancy experience.
“When people say it’s time to have a baby, or that it’s not going to happen, it’s very hurtful. It’s your husband and your hobby that’s helping you survive in this situation. It’s not your struggle alone. It’s you Husband’s joint venture. You can deal with intrusive issues together and say we’re all kids now,” Bonerjee said.
However, female celebrities face more public scrutiny, even if they are not pregnant. Recently, reports have started to emerge as to whether Aishwarya Rai Bachchan is pregnant.
Hollywood star Jennifer Aniston artfully articulated her dissent about shaming women in a 2016 article for The Huffington Post.
“Seriously, I’m not pregnant. I’ve had enough. I’m sick of the daily sports censorship and body shaming in the guise of ‘news,’ ‘First Amendment,’ and ‘celebrity news.’ The objectivity we do with women Censorship and censorship are ridiculous and disturbing. We are whole with or without a partner, with or without children. When it comes to our bodies, we can decide for ourselves what is beautiful. That decision is ours, too Our own,” Aniston wrote.
But until society stops shaming women for their choices, we can express the same sentiment that Arya did in her Instagram post, “Can we get rid of this outdated way of thinking?”
‘Pregnancy is my happiest moment; won’t let trolls turn it into a poisonous slug’: Dia Mirza’, by Prerna Mittra for The Indian Express, Published October 18, 2021
“For the Record,” Jennifer Aniston for The Huffington Post, July 12, 2016
Edited by Yoshida Rao